Waking up from a 6 hour nap, I see this SHAT on my Tumblr dashboard:
All it did for me (besides raise my pressure) is remind me how genuinely UNFUNNY I find her, Chelsea Handler, and other “comediennes” who use black people and culture as a punchline when generally possible. That’s right,…
See prior post of the youtube vid called Black Marriage Negotiations…
I am a very single, black, and newly independent female and this video is HILARIOUS to me. I don’t really understand why black women would be upset about it. The sad thing about the video is that in my opinion, its over exaggerated JUST A LITTLE BIT. *shrug* I have heard plenty of my friends, watched tv talk shows, radio shows in which black women talk about their requirement for their men.
Then again I can see why the non single black women are upset because they have a good relationship and they are concerned that the white people will see this video and take it and run…saying that black women are too demanding xyz. Unfortunately no matter what is put on the internet people are going to take it, run with it and pass it off as fact. It’s life. I am in no way upset about this video because I do know women that say things just like that. I saw a reflection of myself in the video. I have said at least 2 things that ol girl said. Here I am, still single.
Now from a fair standpoint I have never seen a special on 20/20, Oprah, Trya etc about white ,Latina, Asian or other races of women that can’t find a man to marry. Something has to be wrong when there are TV SPECIALS ON WHY BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT GETTING MARRIED. You know the media don’t even like us like that. lol. Black women normally have issues finding anyone and sometimes its because we really are too demanding and well, like it or not, we do have attitudes (not all but some). I could care less if chicks are upset with me for this but seriously we all have that picky ass, gold digging friend who has that one guy who likes her but according to her he’s almost perfect but almost doesn’t count..so on to the next one. A woman would reject a man bc she doesn’t like his hair cut, she doesn’t like his shoe game, he doesn’t have a college education, he has a kid, he is the same height as her, he likes rock music, he’s republican etc.
Google and find some stats about the rate of black women getting married and it is very low. Add in success, education and a high paying job and it seems like there is a slimmer chance to really find love. I wonder why. I am not saying that other women don’t have these same demands or struggles but something is obviously going on in the black community… I am never the woman to say Niggas aint shit…that phrase does not exist in my vocabulary. BUT yall be working a sista’s nerves chile!! Everyone falls short but I wonder why we as black people have so many issues with each other in general and especially when it comes to staying together.
My only hypothesis on this situation is that women may have a harder time getting to where they want to be in life (financially, career wise, etc) and they may feel that if THEY can achieve great success then why shouldn’t a man be able to do just the same? Eh after all it is a man’s world. …if the woman is bringing all these things to the table, the man should very well be able to bring that and more to the table…Society is meant for men to excell and be top dog RIGHT? I digress. That’s just an opinion I just came up with lol.
S/N: Men all you have to do is be appreciative to a female, listen to her, pay attention to detail and be thoughtful. Having money to take her out helps alot too but if you are low on funds be creative!
Fuck what you heard I am an independent woman but I want a chivalrous gentleman who treats me just as good as I treat him. Just respect me and love me. I don’t need a man but hey it would be nice to have one around :)
For the record I believe in black love and I think it’s a beautiful thing. I just hope that we can be more compromising and find common ground.
Just when I begin to feel happy and content about being single…my mind takes me to a dark place: The past.
I saw something I didn’t like. I knew I shouldn’t have went there. Normally I laugh when I see this stuff. It would usually bring me to tears from laughing so hard. Today was different though. The page was different. Some stuff remained the same and some was omitted. Interesting. I go there for a good laugh, but not today. Today was a flashback… I saw something that made me feel everything I felt about a year and a half ago. Dumb fuck. I wonder why some things were still there. I guess for memories. Something weird is going on… I don’t know why I care. I am 80% right about most things (when it comes to my impending heartbreak). I know when pain is about to come. People just deny it for the longest and make me seem like I’m crazy. Then finally admit to the truth. I’m not stupid…please try becoming a better actor.
Now playing Out My Mind Just in Time- Erykah Badu
Closes page. Ha…closes page good one. I wish. I wish the chapter was completely closed. I’ve been feeling weird lately. Since the week started… I have been missing…missing. You know…thinking of how it use to be. I laid down in bed and had a weird flash of memories. I thought about breakfast in bed, dinners, taking a relaxing bath together. In my dreams too. I’ve been finding pictures of him while moving. Sigh…
Now playing Prototype- Outkast
Prototype, he use to be the prototype. Well I thought he was the prototype… ha he fucked a girl who had “protoype” in her facebook name a week after we broke up. Comedy, she was “engaged”. Laughs I tell ya. That word prototype and the song itself make me feel ways.
Then I think about all the SHIT I went through. I miss the good things but I’d have to be a complete fool to omit the bad stuff. Like Tom’s sister said in 500 Days of Summer,
"Look, I know you think she was the one, but I don’t. Now, I think you’re just remembering the good stuff. Next time you look back, I, uh, I really think you should look again."
of course Tom rethinks every memory he had with Summer. Not all of them were good. We often remember all the good things and push the bad things to the back of our brain. I call that lunacy. Going back to something or wanting something that will end with the same results. Insane. I still care about my ex. I guess it’s natural.
Now playing- Be Ok- Chrisette Michelle
Good song to listen to when you have relapses.
I guess I only miss my ex these days because I feel like no one will do the nice romantic things he did for me. That part is what really makes me sad. I just want some romance and some food. I will be a happy camper. Oh well it’s time for me to go back to being happily single. Ahh the joys of writing and venting. :)
Funk. My homecoming was ok. Lots of disappointments. Nothing really worked out like it was suppose to. I wish I could do it all over again. God willing I get #GHOE right next year. Eh. Sigh. Funky mood. I got stood up, I stood some friends up. Ugh just reading and writing that last sentence makes my head hurt.
The concert was ok, I wasted my money. I realize how much I can’t stand Drake. I like the old mixtape Drake. Not the mainstream one. Wait is there a difference in the two? Maybe its just my perception. Summer 2009 you couldn’t get me off his dick. 2010 I want him to shut up. Sat down and shut up. Yes in that order. My how things change. I wish I had went to…nevermind. Anyways Drake is everywhere. Drake Overload. However I would say Petey Pablo coming out on stage made my night. Hahaha I laughed so hard I had tears streaming down my face. Where the fuck did that nigga come from? Yes, I do believe he came out with the same outfit he had on in Drumline. How fitting. What bummed me is that 9th Wonder got on stage and no one really clapped, they just stared like “who is that local ass nigga?” Eh, they played Lovin it (which is one of my fave songs) the crowd was unmoved. I was probably the only person who stood up and danced to the song. How could I not? It’s my theme song. I stood alone in section 219 vibing to lovin it…by my damn self. Oh well…
Homecoming, I realized how alone I am. I realized how I treat my friends. I need to do better. I’ve been thinking a lot lately. Some people say I have plenty of friends but truth be told I feel alone in a group of friends. I feel alone and out of place. It’s too complex to explain but a lot of my loneliness is by choice or is it? A lot of times i don’t feel like talking. I am a mute. I have this issue with distance. IDK WHY. I think it’s an only child thing. I like entertaining but most times I like to be quiet and do what I want in my own space. I subconsciously do things and I’m way too lazy. I noticed I had to go almost everywhere alone. Although I was meeting people at a certain destination…I traveled alone. Not something one dressed up girl on homecoming should probably do. I wondered why I was alone? Was it by choice, did no one wanna come with me? I could go on with questions but I’m sure I’m over analyzing everything. People made plans without me, some included me. Nothing seemed to work. I have noticed that when I really have my heart set on doing something I don’t have anyone who has time (be it school, work, or family obligations), or money or may not even share the same interest as I do. I normally limit myself to doing stuff if I have no one to go with. I need to stop. I miss out on lots of things because I don’t have someone to go with. I suppose its a comfort thing. As long as I have Mi Novio (my blackberry) I’m fine in most situations,
I’m not alone..really. But I feel like I could end up pushing people away from me…sigh. Actually I’m already pushing people away from me. I come off as uncaring, nonchalant, uninterested and cold. I don’t know why I am like that. I can only say its a defense mechanism..but what am I defending myself against?? I’m in a funk. A bad mood. The only thing to do is change…
Not to mention I don’t have a 3.0 for the last 60 hours of my academic career. I’m so pissed. Although I do have an overall gpa of 3.0 my last few semester were tough. Thank GOD for strong grades my freshman and sophomore year. I HAVE to take that freaking test now. School kicked my ass in 08 and 09. Not to mention trying to keep together a failing relationship, do extra curricular shit and graduate on time taking a load of credit hours. I wish I would have done better. Well I guess I better study if I wanna be in grad school next fall. Death to standardized testing. Assholes.
So we were playing 2k11…and you know niggas were having the usual back and forth bullshit kicking banter..but then I think I touched a nerve and this 1 nigga got ultra self righteous..about hoes? and his upbringing..and mine? and pussy?… I dunno:
- “I mean im just saying man, you making mistakes…
Got this in an email. Don’t know how true it is, but it never hurts to try:
Hi All: A bit of information that you might like to know about. We have friends here in our community and one of their sons is an entomologist (insect expert), and has been telling them that there is an epidemic…